'If I had stayed, I would have ended up killing myself,' he tells Newsweek. Plus, his household was so strict that 'coming out wasn't even an option,' he says. Andy had suffered sexual and physical abuse at home. Andy, whose name has been changed, identifies as queer with his gender and sexuality, a phrase some use to describe a sexuality or gender (or both) that doesn't fit with traditional definitions of straight, gay, male or female. Andy was a skinny, shy 14-year-old when he started trading sex for shelter.